As many of my blog readers know, I have a French boyfriend. We’ve been together for almost 1,5 years and I couldn’t be happier. Before we started dating I didn’t think there would be a lot of culture differences because France and the Netherlands are quite similar. Now I know there are and sometimes we just face some differences between our cultures. Things that one of us is not used to and the other person thinks it’s super normal.
Today I want to talk about dating.
In the Netherlands it is normal to go on several dates with someone before you have a relationship. To be in a relationship you usually have ‘the talk.’ The moment where the two of you decide you want to go from dating to be in a serious relationship, right from that moment you’re exclusive. (Unless you want to be in an open relationship, but hey that’s a different story.)
Before you decide to be in a relationship you’re officially not exclusive so it means you can still go out and see other people. Personally I prefer not to see other guys when I am going on dates with someone, but it is socially accepted.
When my boyfriend and I had our first date we ended up kissing each other. We really liked being together and wanted to see each other more often. I saw it as dating and seeing where it goes. For him we were in a relationship.
It wasn’t until a few months after our first date when I told him we never had ‘the talk.’ He had no idea what I was taking about and was kinda shocked when I explained him how it works in my country.
In France you’re exclusive once you’ve kissed and decided to see each other again. The first part of a relationship is the getting to know fase, but you are exclusive, so you’re in a relationship.
So if you ever end up dating someone from a different culture always make sure you’re on the same page. It is nice to know what you can expect from the other one in terms of dating. Are you exclusive or is it okay to go on dates with other people as well?
For us it worked out fine and we’re totally happy. ‘Officially’ we not in a relationship cause we never had the talk, but I don’t care. I love him very much and couldn’t imagine my life with any other guy by my side.