I think I was 6 or 7 years old when my parents took me to Urk. A small town, former island, in the Netherlands. I don’t remember a lot from that specific day, but I do remember we went to a clothes store. My parents had me trying some clothes.
We weren’t the only ones in the store, in the dressing room next to me there were a girl and her mother. The girl was around the same age as me and trying on the same outfit as I was wearing.
The mother told her daughter the outfit didn’t look as good on her as it did on me since she was fat.
15 years later I still remember the painful comment a woman I had never seen before made to her daughter.
The comment has always been in the back of my mind. When I started struggling with my eating disorder this specific comment came back to me many times. When I was alone in a dressing room I would always hear a voice in the back of my mind saying: ‘’this outfit would look so much better on a skinnier girl.’’
It’s weird how the one thing she once said still influences me to this day.
I just can’t imagine what the comment did to her own daughter. It must be so awful to have your own mom saying things like that.
Dear little girl from the store,
I really hope you know you are good just the way you are. That outfit looked good on you, don’t worry.
I hope your moms comment didn’t influence your life as much as it did to mine. I hope your mom came to a moment of realizing you can’t say those things. Especially to your own 6 years old daughter.
Dear little girl, I hope you’re doing well.